When you feel more resentment than love

When you feel more resentment than love

If you are caring for a parent or parents who abused or neglected you in childhood, your situation is especially challenging. You may feel on an emotional tightrope, trying to keep your balance, with many conflicting feelings. For example, guilt, that you...
Low-vision bathroom

Low-vision bathroom

The bathroom is often the most challenging (and least safe) room in the house for someone who is visually impaired: Poor lighting, or lighting that’s too bright. Lots of white-on-white furnishings and shiny fixtures. Hard-to-read settings on faucets. Tiny caps...
Adjusting to memory care

Adjusting to memory care

Once your loved one is in their new home, the two of you will have a lot of adjusting to do. Like any big change, it takes time to find a new internal balance, a “new normal.” One to three months is about average. For you. Expect a range of emotions:...
When ice cream is better than salad

When ice cream is better than salad

Whether it’s a bowl of soup or a bag of groceries, providing food is how we show our love. And when a relative has a serious illness, it’s natural to want them to eat a healthy diet. Many chronic conditions respond well to specialized diets. Diabetes and...
What is “healthy selfishness”?

What is “healthy selfishness”?

As a rule, family caregivers are generous. They tend to be empathetic and to want to help. But it is possible to be too generous, with a tendency to sacrifice one’s own needs for the benefit of others. Sound familiar? This is called “pathologic...