Gentle Shepherd Blog
Our team at Gentle Shepherd Hospice wants you to have the practical information you need to make the most of every day. Check out these helpful articles and devotionals written by Kim Eckenroth our co-founder and VP of patient care.
Managing pain with music
Here's a prescription for pain relief: the sound of music. Pain is very real. It is also a perception. How strongly we feel pain at any given time depends a good deal on our thoughts and mood. Music has a profound influence on both. Indeed, research shows that using...
When you feel more resentment than love
If you are caring for a parent or parents who abused or neglected you in childhood, your situation is especially challenging. You may feel on an emotional tightrope, trying to keep your balance, with many conflicting feelings. For example, guilt, that you "should"...
Low-vision bathroom
The bathroom is often the most challenging (and least safe) room in the house for someone who is visually impaired: Poor lighting, or lighting that's too bright. Lots of white-on-white furnishings and shiny fixtures. Hard-to-read settings on faucets. Tiny caps and...
How is your relative’s “social health”?
The U.S. Surgeon General reports we have a loneliness epidemic. Like smoking and obesity, social isolation creates a greater risk for poor health. It's been associated with a 48 percent increase in "premature death" (a death where a change in lifestyle could have...
Adjusting to memory care
Once your loved one is in their new home, the two of you will have a lot of adjusting to do. Like any big change, it takes time to find a new internal balance, a "new normal." One to three months is about average. For you. Expect a range of emotions: Sadness, guilt,...
When ice cream is better than salad
Whether it's a bowl of soup or a bag of groceries, providing food is how we show our love. And when a relative has a serious illness, it's natural to want them to eat a healthy diet. Many chronic conditions respond well to specialized diets. Diabetes and heart...
What is “healthy selfishness”?
As a rule, family caregivers are generous. They tend to be empathetic and to want to help. But it is possible to be too generous, with a tendency to sacrifice one's own needs for the benefit of others. Sound familiar? This is called "pathologic altruism." People who...
Dementia: Packing for a trip
A trip. Sounds like fun! And, it's more challenging when you travel with a companion who has dementia. But with forethought and planning, you can avoid or readily address common problems. Things to do a few weeks ahead Get an ID bracelet for you and your loved one. In...
Bringing the hospital home
Suppose you bring your frail loved one or a relative with dementia to the ER because of trouble breathing. The doctors determine it is pneumonia caused by bits of food being swallowed into the lungs. Rather than stay in the hospital, they suggest your relative use the...
Senior bullying and exclusion
About 20% of seniors living in communal settings experience bullying in one form or another. Cliques and power hierarchies seem to be a human tendency. If your loved one is the focus of bullying, you might notice withdrawal from others or depressed mood. Or you might...
Meaningful end of life conversations
Hollywood would have us believe that profound deathbed conversations occur just before the last breath is drawn. Not so! The last few weeks of a person's life are often marked by extreme fatigue, long hours of sleep, and sometimes distracting levels of pain....
Preparing for a heat wave
Make sure your loved one is ready to “take the heat” this summer. Older bodies are less able to cope with excessive heat, so it’s important to ensure safeguards are in place. Check in with your relative’s doctor. Certain chronic conditions and medications increase an...