Initiating in-home help for a loved one sets up a big change. You know support is needed, you’ve reached out for help, and now you wonder, Are we ready? That’s a good question! It’s wise to do some up-front preparation. When possible, involve your relative in the process. Open communication helps them feel respected and helps you avoid last-minute problem solving.
Here are concerns to address before you enlist paid help, and topics to cover when you’re orienting a new aide and bringing them on board:
- Safety, insurance, and emergencies. Check the homeowner’s or renter’s insurance to confirm coverage when a paid helper is in the home. Put lists of emergency contacts, medications, allergies, and preferred hospitals in one place. Include a brief medical history. Show and discuss this information with the aide. Point out any safety concerns about the house, such as a floor prone to being slippery when wet.
- Personal history and daily routines. Share the things that matter to your loved one, such as favorite foods, pets, clothing items, preferred TV shows, and names of relatives. Review their daily rhythms: what time they usually wake up/nap, bathe, eat meals, etc. Are there cultural or religious considerations to explain?
- Roles, boundaries, and expectations. Communicate with the aide about what they are there to do or not do. This may include personal care, meals, light housekeeping, companionship, or errands. Getting clear about their duties now helps avoid awkward conversations later.
- Transportation and personal security. Decide ahead of time if you want the aide to drive and what car they’ll use. If driving is planned, confirm the aide’s license and insurance. It also helps to talk through keys, alarm codes, and privacy expectations so both you and your relative feel comfortable.
- Backup plans and time tracking. Life happens. Find out what to do if your loved one gets sick or if the aide cannot come. Get clear on how their hours will be tracked—paper log, app, or agency system—which can also help with required reporting.
For some families, a care manager can help you think things through and tailor a plan that fits your situation. With the right support, you don’t have to manage the care of your loved one all on your own.
Are you arranging in-home help for a loved one?
Good preparation helps everyone start off on the right foot. As the Roanoke and Lynchburg experts in family caregiving, we at Gentle Shepherd Hospice are here to provide guidance as you sort through the details. We walk alongside you and help create a plan that truly fits your loved one’s needs. Give us a call at 1-800-789-0586 (toll-free) to learn more.